Imperfect Family: Setting Free Skeletons of Kinship Neglect
by Leyland A. King
About the author
The author of this family saga has a unique perspective of what helps families. Having visited thousands of homes in professional contexts he is not jaded in asserting that there are no perfect families, but there are multitudes of families who are adroit at concealing the unflattering while parading what they believe to be commendable. He accepts that today, much is beyond the capacities of families who struggle, but there are precepts that if understood and honored, may at least alleviate some of their burdens. Reaching back objectively, to his Irish Great Grandfather and Great Grandmother of African ancestry, the author is deliberate in making key assumptions that the ethics of plantocracy resonate with our time and that intergenerational abuse and kinship disregard exacerbate our situation. Told in the style of a participant-observer, examining certain decisions made and their tragic consequences, yet the writer skillfully managed and interspersed the story with very amusing episodes and folklore.
LEYLAND A. KING, Superintendent of Police (Fmr.) Child Protective Investigations Program Administrator(Ret.) holds a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling and Agency Development from Troy State University. He is also a Certified Public Manager. Mr. King resides with his family in Florida, USA. Mr. King may be contacted through his blog, BlueGadfly.com.
About the book
Time spent with your children is precious. Just being at home regularly and talking about whatever, is sufficient for the emotional development and comfort of every member of the family. Just talk.
This family saga is about an ordinary family’s cohesiveness, strength, ambition and determination that made it possible for within one generation to climb the slippery, ramshackle ladder from deprivation to the security of American middle-class. The story accentuates what has been said by many others, that poverty is more a matter of perception and relativity; that with understanding one’s situation thoroughly, one might find a way from victim to mastery through right thinking, right actions and reciprocity. The author is not seeking to assert that everyone can bootstrap a way out of poverty. There are places and situations so bereft of opportunities, where poverty is so abject, it will be a travesty to even suggest that behaviors on their part could lift them out. With several years of experience as a Commissioned police officer and a second career as a Child Protective Investigations Program Administrator, the author, having visited the homes of thousands of families, interviewing many, many more individuals, has come to believe what for some is already known at an intellectual level, that there are no perfect families.
Through education and specific training, Mr. King has been able to identify the kind of value system, foreign and local that contribute to inter-generational abuse and neglect of children. He hypothesizes, based on impressionistic information available to him, that Plantocracy, its highest values being Control, Obedience, Punishment and Docility, is probably the dominant source of faulty thinking, that may lead to abusive behaviors and consequences, physical and psychological, for families multiple generations removed. But the work is neither pedantic nor judgmental in addressing external, detrimental factors that bind one to calamitous outcomes. Alcohol abuse and dependency, extravagancy, gender imbalance are all portrayed experientially. Throughout the book, there are repeated examples of the importance of filial duties, retention of virtues and some travails brought upon oneself when his control is casually surrendered to another. Exploitation is seen for what it is and discussed without rancor. There is much to enjoy as the readers’ imagination goes for a ride with folklore, myths and adventure expressed as humorously as ever.
Leyland A. King
December 4, 2019